By: Evan Bolton
As some of you may have noticed, some maybe not, things have been pretty quiet with mission:soccer over the past few months or so. I wanted to take a few minutes share about some big changes that have happened recently. Changes that I am really excited about.
From the very beginning, the organization has been an expression of my passions, my beliefs, my ambitions, and my desire to leave an impact on this world. And soccer has been the vehicle to carry that out. The organization has also been an expression of the time that I have had to put into it. Obviously I wish the organization was something I could do full time and have support me, but that it is a difficult feat. As a result, the organization ebbs and flows with the changes within my life and with the amount of time that I have to invest into it. I think the past few months is a perfect example of that.
So why do I say all this?
Over the past few months I have had some big life changes happen that have reshaped the landscape of my life, and in turn, mission:soccer. I got engaged over the Holiday’s to an amazing woman. I relocated to Chicago in the end of January, and then began a new job just few days later. These are big life changes. They are changes that have taken my time, my energy, and my attention. As a result, my ability to invest the same amount into the organization as I was, say 6 months ago, is far less. However, it hasn’t been solely an issue of free time, but also order of priorities.
I am a strong believer in order. There is an order to how things are done. I love cooking, however, there is an order of steps that needs to be followed in order to produce a successful meal. For example, you need to turn on the oven before you cook a Thanksgiving turkey – unless salmonella poisoning is your end goal. The same applies to our lives. I truly believe that there is an order of priorities that we must have in our lives. God first, then family (wife, kids etc.), then ministry and outreach.
For the past two and half years mission:soccer has been my top priority after God. It is where I have invested my time, my efforts, and my finances. And rightly so, for the past two and a half years that was the proper order of things in my life. However, a few months ago those priorities shifted. Getting engaged dramatically changed the course and priorities of my life. I recognize the responsibility and duty that comes along with getting engaged and becoming a husband. It is a huge responsibility to provide, protect, lead, and take care of someone else. It is something that now impacts every aspect of my life. I am no longer considering only my own well being, but now someone else’s above mine. My choices no longer impact just me, but they directly impact someone else. This level of responsibility requires a realigning of priorities, and this is what I have been trying to do.
I am also a strong believer in balance. Although getting engaged has placed a new priority into the mix, and seems to push mission:soccer to the back burner, there still needs to be balance. Yes, the majority of my effort is going into being the best fiancé and soon-to-be husband I can be. Much of my energy is focused in my job and making sure that I am excelling in it and able to provide for a family. However, that doesn’t mean mission:soccer get’s neglected or forgotten. I still need to invest into, even if it is in small ways. This is a balance I am trying to find and figure out. So what form is the organization supposed to take? How active are we supposed to be? These are questions I am working through.
All of my passions to change the world and leave an imprint are still here. Probably more-so then ever actually. However, I know that if I am not a faithful and responsible husband, a provider, and a leader within my marriage, then I will struggle with changing the world. That is the truth.
This is the next step in my story. A chapter that will further teach and prepare me to make mission:soccer into the organization that is supposed to be. Whether that is a huge global non-profit organization or a small passion-project. Whatever the future is, I am excited for the journey. And I am thrilled to have a kick-ass (hope that’s appropriate) wife by my side!
Evan Bolton is the Founder/Director of mission:soccer. Fiancé and soon-to-be husband. Writer. World Traveler. Storyteller. Follower of Jesus.
You can follow him on twitter @EvanBolton_